
Kelly Clarkson Stronger (picture from http://www.turbolyrics.net)
In my Methods and Procedures of Counseling class, we explore many different techniques and therapies. This past week, we studied Existential Therapy, and I absolutely loved it! I can relate to this type of therapy and as the “counselor,” I can apply these ideas to my own life.
One view of human nature from the existential viewpoint is that you help the client face dilemmas of isolation, alienation, and meaninglessness. Viktor Frankl (the founder of logotherapy – a form of Existential Analysis) once said, “That which does not kill me, makes me stronger.” Sound familiar? Kelly Clarkson recently quoted this in her song “Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You).”
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger Stand a little taller Doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone.
Amazing! These lyrics perfectly align with existential therapy.
One of the core expressions in existential therapy is “Who I’m going to be, I’m now becoming.” What a powerful statement! We have a choice over who we are and how we deal with our experiences. Here are some other thoughts from existential therapy that I want to leave with you to think about and possibly apply to your own life. I hope this provides an avenue for some self-awareness:
- We can’t change certain events in life, but we can change the way we view and react to those events
- We can choose to act or not to act – inaction is a decision
- Sometimes we fail to live in the present. We are too preoccupied with the past, future, or trying to do too many things at once.
- Sometimes we can be so preoccupied with suffering, death, and dying that we are not appreciating living
- We do not need to be perfect to feel worthy.
- Authenticity is the courage to be who we are, and we need courage to move on despite anxieties that we face.
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